Case Histories
These Case Histories were written by women whose husbands either have diagnosed Asperger’s syndrome or they suspect that this is what the problem is, usually because they already have diagnosed children. The Case Histories were sent to Brenda Wall during the period November 1996 to September 1997 for the purpose of convincing all the experts who said that people with AS did not get married, and therefore provided no support, that in fact they did. Also to copy them to all the ladies who formed the growing partners’ network as a source of validation and comfort.
Please note the following:
- These case histories were collected by Brenda Wall in England from October 1996 to August 1997.
- Brenda Wall as well as the anonymous authors, reserve all rights regarding reprinting and publication of these case histories.
I thought that I could write a book about what it was like living with a husband who has Asperger’s Syndrome, although you don’t know at the time that is what it is. It is like a dripping tap that eventually erodes enamel, the grinding down of your self-esteem, self- confidence, … Read More »
I have been married for fourteen years; within six months of that marriage I had visited my GP to discuss whether or not my husband was experiencing some sort of nervous breakdown. I have mentioned serious depression; withdrawn behavior – could an undetected brain tumor cause behavioral problems? … Read More »
I have spent the last thirty-two years in some sort of bizarre, bewildering hell.
This is extremely difficult for me to write – as I have been subjected to 30 years of written “lists” and “reports” on my behavior and conversation!
Eg (written by my husband on cards or small notebooks):
9:05 am
Wanting to go shopping
10:00 … Read More »
I am writing in despair and poor health in the hope that someone, somewhere will recognize that there are many people in my position, we desperately need help, and our lives are in tatters.
I use the word “life” loosely, because my quality of life is almost nil. I am the … Read More »
Built up from extracts taken from letters from the correspondent.
Thank you so much for your kind letter and all the information. X went straight out and got Somebody Somewhere – and now Nobody Nowhere – and we have both just about read them.
The similarities are striking, except that X is gentle, … Read More »
I feel it is of the utmost importance that the following revelations are scrutinized very carefully in order for something to be done to help all the other carers and me to live with this situation. I am encountering terrible problems, but more to the point is what these problems … Read More »
I don’t know where to start. I am sure my husband is suffering from some form of autism but have had no one to talk to about it. He doesn’t seem to think there is anything wrong with him even if I mention some of his annoying attributes, even though he … Read More »
I have been married for 5 years and have known my husband for the past 8 years. I had a music business and being a musician himself would come into the shop to buy music.
Sometimes he would sit and play the piano – I would make coffee and we would talk. … Read More »
I have been married for 10 years and have been very unhappy for the last 8 years, which coincided with the birth of our first child. When we were going out together he lived at home and I didn’t see the side of him that reacts so badly to stress and … Read More »
The Present
X and I are both 43. We have been married 17 years, and have three daughters, aged 11, 9 and 7. Our 11-year-old (W) has Asperger’s Syndrome, and attends a mainstream High School in our village. Y and Z attend the Junior School, also in our village.
X works as … Read More »
I have always known there was a problem and I think he also knows. I believe he wants to be content, have a happy family life, friendships etc. But I know it has always eluded him. He has tried hard, particularly in latter years, because he has had so many … Read More »
